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Perks of Being an Only Child

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Sep 19, 2013
by: Cassadey
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What are the advantages of being an only child?

I am interested in this topic because I am an only child. One of the perks of being an only child include the independence that you gain. You dont have any one to look up too, and you have to try new things, which can be really fun. After researching information on my topic, I found some interesting stuff. First born children usually display a higher IQ. An only children can embrace this enriched environment. They also have a lot of self esteem from the positive enforcement of their parents. Another site that I searched talked about the personality traits that only children tend to have. The negative personality traits include to be more self-centered, egotistical, bossy, and lonely. But on the positive side they have a higher IQ, more creativity, contain abstract and mechanical reasoning, mathematics, and reading and english comprehension. I think those things cancel out the negatives! For people who are an only child, would you agree with some of these personality types? I asked some of my family and friends if I portrayed these characteristics, positive and negative, and the said I contained some of both. If you have siblings, what are your views on only children and do you like having siblings?

http://onlychildproject.com/the-only-child-advantages/

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Not having any siblings?

Submitted by Adrita Shafi on Fri, 2013-09-20 11:30.

In my family, I'm the middle child. And as you've heard the middle child doesn't get that much attention, I'm okay with that for the most part. However, there are times I've been hidden in my older sister's shadows or covered by my little brother's "amazing accomplishments". That can get annoying sometimes, and there is always someone I can get compared to. A lot of people say that the middle chidren turn out to be depressed and more nonsense like that. And I do wish sometimes of being either the oldest or the youngest. 

However, I just cannot cope with being an only child. As you said in your post, only children are a little lonely. I can't stand being alone, I always need someone to bother (like my sister or brother). I don't think any only child likesnot having any siblings and that they may wish for it. But, look on the bright side. You guys get a healthy amount of attention from your parents. You also get to have your own room! I'm practically begging my parents to get a bigger house so I could get my own room. You don't have to be the smartest, but other than that all the other reasons are actually really good. I think I lack everything except being a little smart. 

Agree

Submitted by wickemil on Fri, 2013-10-11 11:12.

Dear Cassadey,
I am satisfied with your post "Perks of Being an Only Child" because many of the things you are saying I agree with. They were very relatable.
One sentence you wrote that stands out to me was "The negative personality traits include to be more self-centered, egotistical, bossy, and lonely". I think this is true because one of my siblings has gone to college and it has made a change on my life. Also next year my other sibling is leaving for college and I am wondering about how that will impact my life.
Another sentence that stood out to me was "They also have a lot of self esteem" this stood out because I have noticed that sometimes I have compared myself to my siblings but I think it was good to be able to interact with people that were older than me.
I do agree with you that sometimes it's good to be an only child to have a lot of encouragement. One reason I say this is because I think all kids should be encouraged but they can also get that with siblings. Another thing I agree on is when you asked if I liked having siblings. I have fought with my siblings but I always liked to have someone to help me and talk to. I think having 2-4 years apart from each sibling is better because there is less competition.
Thanks for writing. I look forward to what you write next because I thought your writing was very good. You had very good details.

Agree w/ link

Submitted by houtlily on Wed, 2013-10-23 13:05.

Dear Cassadey
I am intrigued by your piece, "Perks of Being an Only Child," because I am an only child and never really thought about the things that you wrote in this piece. After reading this I realize that many of the things you wrote are true. I never really thought that I was different from other kids simply based on the fact that I don't have siblings, but your piece made me see differently.

One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is, "The negative personality traits include to be more self-centered, egotistical, bossy, and lonely." I think this is interesting, because I realize that I have some of these traits. I feel the one that is most similar to me is loneliness, and though I personally don't feel it's a bad thing, I can see how others might. I also feel like I can be bossy, but usually that trait only shows when the people I'm working with aren't listening or are not on task. As I think more, I may be able to apply these other traits to me as well.

There is one sentence that you wrote that I don't really agree with, and that is, "I think those things cancel out the negatives!" Though in some cases I believe positive traits can cancel out negative ones, that is not always true. If someone has an overload of one negative trait, some people may not be able to tolerate them, even if they have many positive traits as well.

I do strongly agree with most of the things that you say. One reason I agree is because the majority of the traits you listed apply to me, an only child. I also agree because I have looked at some studies ( http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/surviving-your-childs-adolescence/20... ) and they say many of the traits you listed are true for only children. Though not all traits will apply to everyone, that is okay because people are very different from each other.

Thank you for writing this piece. I hope I can read more of what you write because this piece made me think about people and the world differently than I have ever done before. I really like some of the ideas you have, and hope to learn more from you in the future.

Dear Cassadey: I am

Submitted by jaylynnmarie98 on Wed, 2014-03-19 12:41.

Dear Cassadey:
I am interested about your post, "Perks of Being an Only Child," because for most of my life, I was an only child. I am fifteen years old and I was an only child until around twelve years old. I was very curious about the difference between children with and without siblings. I even discovered single children that grow up, strictly around adults and with no other children in their lives, have awkward and anti social life styles and patterns. Even though I was an only child, I grew up around other children so I am not very anti-social. I was hoping to find other relatable aspects in your post, which I did.
One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is: "First born children usually display a higher IQ" I think this is a very fascinating statement because I wonder if it is true. I do consider myself smart (and more intelligent than many other students). However, my younger sister is only two and I can have a full “grown up” conversation with her. She uses complete sentences, consisting of nouns, pronouns, adjectives, verbs, and she sounds very smart for her age. I don’t recall being quite as talkative and outspoken at two years old. Does her ability to take on higher level conversations connect to a strong IQ? I wonder if this statement has been proven true.
Another sentence that I engaged by was: "The negative personality traits include to be more self-centered, egotistical, bossy, and lonely." This stood out for me because I can definitely relate. All these things describe me and I have always wondered where these traits came from. I think, honestly, many different concepts of my individual life add up to me possessing these traits. For example, I act bossy because most of my family is bossy and it has become a grown habit to take control by watching them. In my opinion, personality all depends on one’s environment, household, faith, beliefs, and so on. So my question would be, does being an only child really contribute to these negative traits?
Your post reminds me of my entire self. It really makes me think of who I am, and why I am that way. Is it possible to determine the true causes of one’s personality? I think there is a difference between only child(s) and siblings. But the major difference lies between children surrounded by adults, and children surrounded by other children.
Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next, because I learned a thing or two from your post. I love how you were both informative, and straight to the point. Im glad to learn that I’m not the only bossy and self-centered, only child in the world. Once again, thank you.

Dear Cassadey: I am

Submitted by jaylynnmarie98 on Wed, 2014-03-19 12:41.

Dear Cassadey:
I am interested about your post, "Perks of Being an Only Child," because for most of my life, I was an only child. I am fifteen years old and I was an only child until around twelve years old. I was very curious about the difference between children with and without siblings. I even discovered single children that grow up, strictly around adults and with no other children in their lives, have awkward and anti social life styles and patterns. Even though I was an only child, I grew up around other children so I am not very anti-social. I was hoping to find other relatable aspects in your post, which I did.
One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is: "First born children usually display a higher IQ" I think this is a very fascinating statement because I wonder if it is true. I do consider myself smart (and more intelligent than many other students). However, my younger sister is only two and I can have a full “grown up” conversation with her. She uses complete sentences, consisting of nouns, pronouns, adjectives, verbs, and she sounds very smart for her age. I don’t recall being quite as talkative and outspoken at two years old. Does her ability to take on higher level conversations connect to a strong IQ? I wonder if this statement has been proven true.
Another sentence that I engaged by was: "The negative personality traits include to be more self-centered, egotistical, bossy, and lonely." This stood out for me because I can definitely relate. All these things describe me and I have always wondered where these traits came from. I think, honestly, many different concepts of my individual life add up to me possessing these traits. For example, I act bossy because most of my family is bossy and it has become a grown habit to take control by watching them. In my opinion, personality all depends on one’s environment, household, faith, beliefs, and so on. So my question would be, does being an only child really contribute to these negative traits?
Your post reminds me of my entire self. It really makes me think of who I am, and why I am that way. Is it possible to determine the true causes of one’s personality? I think there is a difference between only child(s) and siblings. But the major difference lies between children surrounded by adults, and children surrounded by other children.
Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next, because I learned a thing or two from your post. I love how you were both informative, and straight to the point. Im glad to learn that I’m not the only bossy and self-centered, only child in the world. Once again, thank you.

Dear Cassadey: I am

Submitted by jaylynnmarie98 on Wed, 2014-03-19 12:41.

Dear Cassadey:
I am interested about your post, "Perks of Being an Only Child," because for most of my life, I was an only child. I am fifteen years old and I was an only child until around twelve years old. I was very curious about the difference between children with and without siblings. I even discovered single children that grow up, strictly around adults and with no other children in their lives, have awkward and anti social life styles and patterns. Even though I was an only child, I grew up around other children so I am not very anti-social. I was hoping to find other relatable aspects in your post, which I did.
One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is: "First born children usually display a higher IQ" I think this is a very fascinating statement because I wonder if it is true. I do consider myself smart (and more intelligent than many other students). However, my younger sister is only two and I can have a full “grown up” conversation with her. She uses complete sentences, consisting of nouns, pronouns, adjectives, verbs, and she sounds very smart for her age. I don’t recall being quite as talkative and outspoken at two years old. Does her ability to take on higher level conversations connect to a strong IQ? I wonder if this statement has been proven true.
Another sentence that I engaged by was: "The negative personality traits include to be more self-centered, egotistical, bossy, and lonely." This stood out for me because I can definitely relate. All these things describe me and I have always wondered where these traits came from. I think, honestly, many different concepts of my individual life add up to me possessing these traits. For example, I act bossy because most of my family is bossy and it has become a grown habit to take control by watching them. In my opinion, personality all depends on one’s environment, household, faith, beliefs, and so on. So my question would be, does being an only child really contribute to these negative traits?
Your post reminds me of my entire self. It really makes me think of who I am, and why I am that way. Is it possible to determine the true causes of one’s personality? I think there is a difference between only child(s) and siblings. But the major difference lies between children surrounded by adults, and children surrounded by other children.
Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next, because I learned a thing or two from your post. I love how you were both informative, and straight to the point. Im glad to learn that I’m not the only bossy and self-centered, only child in the world. Once again, thank you.

Dear Cassadey: I am

Submitted by jaylynnmarie98 on Wed, 2014-03-19 12:42.

Dear Cassadey:
I am interested about your post, "Perks of Being an Only Child," because for most of my life, I was an only child. I am fifteen years old and I was an only child until around twelve years old. I was very curious about the difference between children with and without siblings. I even discovered single children that grow up, strictly around adults and with no other children in their lives, have awkward and anti social life styles and patterns. Even though I was an only child, I grew up around other children so I am not very anti-social. I was hoping to find other relatable aspects in your post, which I did.
One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is: "First born children usually display a higher IQ" I think this is a very fascinating statement because I wonder if it is true. I do consider myself smart (and more intelligent than many other students). However, my younger sister is only two and I can have a full “grown up” conversation with her. She uses complete sentences, consisting of nouns, pronouns, adjectives, verbs, and she sounds very smart for her age. I don’t recall being quite as talkative and outspoken at two years old. Does her ability to take on higher level conversations connect to a strong IQ? I wonder if this statement has been proven true.
Another sentence that I engaged by was: "The negative personality traits include to be more self-centered, egotistical, bossy, and lonely." This stood out for me because I can definitely relate. All these things describe me and I have always wondered where these traits came from. I think, honestly, many different concepts of my individual life add up to me possessing these traits. For example, I act bossy because most of my family is bossy and it has become a grown habit to take control by watching them. In my opinion, personality all depends on one’s environment, household, faith, beliefs, and so on. So my question would be, does being an only child really contribute to these negative traits?
Your post reminds me of my entire self. It really makes me think of who I am, and why I am that way. Is it possible to determine the true causes of one’s personality? I think there is a difference between only child(s) and siblings. But the major difference lies between children surrounded by adults, and children surrounded by other children.
Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next, because I learned a thing or two from your post. I love how you were both informative, and straight to the point. Im glad to learn that I’m not the only bossy and self-centered, only child in the world. Once again, thank you.

Dear Cassadey: I am

Submitted by jaylynnmarie98 on Wed, 2014-03-19 12:42.

Dear Cassadey:
I am interested about your post, "Perks of Being an Only Child," because for most of my life, I was an only child. I am fifteen years old and I was an only child until around twelve years old. I was very curious about the difference between children with and without siblings. I even discovered single children that grow up, strictly around adults and with no other children in their lives, have awkward and anti social life styles and patterns. Even though I was an only child, I grew up around other children so I am not very anti-social. I was hoping to find other relatable aspects in your post, which I did.
One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is: "First born children usually display a higher IQ" I think this is a very fascinating statement because I wonder if it is true. I do consider myself smart (and more intelligent than many other students). However, my younger sister is only two and I can have a full “grown up” conversation with her. She uses complete sentences, consisting of nouns, pronouns, adjectives, verbs, and she sounds very smart for her age. I don’t recall being quite as talkative and outspoken at two years old. Does her ability to take on higher level conversations connect to a strong IQ? I wonder if this statement has been proven true.
Another sentence that I engaged by was: "The negative personality traits include to be more self-centered, egotistical, bossy, and lonely." This stood out for me because I can definitely relate. All these things describe me and I have always wondered where these traits came from. I think, honestly, many different concepts of my individual life add up to me possessing these traits. For example, I act bossy because most of my family is bossy and it has become a grown habit to take control by watching them. In my opinion, personality all depends on one’s environment, household, faith, beliefs, and so on. So my question would be, does being an only child really contribute to these negative traits?
Your post reminds me of my entire self. It really makes me think of who I am, and why I am that way. Is it possible to determine the true causes of one’s personality? I think there is a difference between only child(s) and siblings. But the major difference lies between children surrounded by adults, and children surrounded by other children.
Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next, because I learned a thing or two from your post. I love how you were both informative, and straight to the point. Im glad to learn that I’m not the only bossy and self-centered, only child in the world. Once again, thank you.

Dear Cassadey: I am

Submitted by jaylynnmarie98 on Wed, 2014-03-19 12:42.

Dear Cassadey:
I am interested about your post, "Perks of Being an Only Child," because for most of my life, I was an only child. I am fifteen years old and I was an only child until around twelve years old. I was very curious about the difference between children with and without siblings. I even discovered single children that grow up, strictly around adults and with no other children in their lives, have awkward and anti social life styles and patterns. Even though I was an only child, I grew up around other children so I am not very anti-social. I was hoping to find other relatable aspects in your post, which I did.
One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is: "First born children usually display a higher IQ" I think this is a very fascinating statement because I wonder if it is true. I do consider myself smart (and more intelligent than many other students). However, my younger sister is only two and I can have a full “grown up” conversation with her. She uses complete sentences, consisting of nouns, pronouns, adjectives, verbs, and she sounds very smart for her age. I don’t recall being quite as talkative and outspoken at two years old. Does her ability to take on higher level conversations connect to a strong IQ? I wonder if this statement has been proven true.
Another sentence that I engaged by was: "The negative personality traits include to be more self-centered, egotistical, bossy, and lonely." This stood out for me because I can definitely relate. All these things describe me and I have always wondered where these traits came from. I think, honestly, many different concepts of my individual life add up to me possessing these traits. For example, I act bossy because most of my family is bossy and it has become a grown habit to take control by watching them. In my opinion, personality all depends on one’s environment, household, faith, beliefs, and so on. So my question would be, does being an only child really contribute to these negative traits?
Your post reminds me of my entire self. It really makes me think of who I am, and why I am that way. Is it possible to determine the true causes of one’s personality? I think there is a difference between only child(s) and siblings. But the major difference lies between children surrounded by adults, and children surrounded by other children.
Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next, because I learned a thing or two from your post. I love how you were both informative, and straight to the point. Im glad to learn that I’m not the only bossy and self-centered, only child in the world. Once again, thank you.

Dear Cassadey: I am

Submitted by jaylynnmarie98 on Wed, 2014-03-19 12:42.

Dear Cassadey:
I am interested about your post, "Perks of Being an Only Child," because for most of my life, I was an only child. I am fifteen years old and I was an only child until around twelve years old. I was very curious about the difference between children with and without siblings. I even discovered single children that grow up, strictly around adults and with no other children in their lives, have awkward and anti social life styles and patterns. Even though I was an only child, I grew up around other children so I am not very anti-social. I was hoping to find other relatable aspects in your post, which I did.
One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is: "First born children usually display a higher IQ" I think this is a very fascinating statement because I wonder if it is true. I do consider myself smart (and more intelligent than many other students). However, my younger sister is only two and I can have a full “grown up” conversation with her. She uses complete sentences, consisting of nouns, pronouns, adjectives, verbs, and she sounds very smart for her age. I don’t recall being quite as talkative and outspoken at two years old. Does her ability to take on higher level conversations connect to a strong IQ? I wonder if this statement has been proven true.
Another sentence that I engaged by was: "The negative personality traits include to be more self-centered, egotistical, bossy, and lonely." This stood out for me because I can definitely relate. All these things describe me and I have always wondered where these traits came from. I think, honestly, many different concepts of my individual life add up to me possessing these traits. For example, I act bossy because most of my family is bossy and it has become a grown habit to take control by watching them. In my opinion, personality all depends on one’s environment, household, faith, beliefs, and so on. So my question would be, does being an only child really contribute to these negative traits?
Your post reminds me of my entire self. It really makes me think of who I am, and why I am that way. Is it possible to determine the true causes of one’s personality? I think there is a difference between only child(s) and siblings. But the major difference lies between children surrounded by adults, and children surrounded by other children.
Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next, because I learned a thing or two from your post. I love how you were both informative, and straight to the point. Im glad to learn that I’m not the only bossy and self-centered, only child in the world. Once again, thank you.

Being alone is awesome, feeling lonely is not

Submitted by randya3011 on Fri, 2014-03-21 11:25.

Dear Cassadey:

I am intrigued with your post, "Perks of Being an Only Child" because it’s an odd topic that many might disagree to and maybe even offend some. But also you state some eyebrow raising opinions that others might find true.
One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is: "First born children usually display a higher IQ." I think this is false because I think that birth doesn't determine how intelligent a person will become. I think that a person will become more intelligent based on what they are taught and how well they are able to process the different types of information learned.
Another sentence that I thought to be fascinating was: " But on the positive side they have a higher IQ, more creativity, contain abstract and mechanical reasoning, mathematics, and reading and english comprehension." This stood out for me because although some of these traits are true, most are not. I feel like you exaggerated the traits so that you can get more people to agree to your opinion.
I do agree with you that being an only does have its perks. One reason I say this is because during my brotherless era I did receive more attention and gifts. Another reason I agree with you is because while I was an only child I was never compared to anyone and had less responsibility.
Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next, because your post are very relatable.